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Happy Summer! Sometimes, when I see someone’s ever-so perfectly curated-filtered Instagram posts and stories I am disheartened. Well, all the time if I am being honest. I want to tap on the glass and say, “will the real you please stand up?”  I wonder if they are depressed, insecure, or if they are aware of the “humblebrag” of the post. 

Does this post look familiar? Poor Danny Trejo! The post is not inspirational, instead, it becomes a “whoa! look at me!”  I look at the post, I think, “Is that for real? Or “what message are they trying to say?”  But then, clickbait happens. I hit the rest of the button, and see a perfect “Instagrid” with beautiful filters smiles, stars, duckfaces, skins, glows, and poses. I’m sucked in. 

100 years from now our great-great-grandchildren are going to find our pictures and posts. They will wonder why we have dog ears and mouths on all our...

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My Poor, Dear Husband

They say learn something new every day. As I grow older, I questioned this, but recently, I did learn something new. Here is a “funny” story to prove my point.

 My husband & I enjoy a large flower bouquet on our kitchen counter. It doesn’t start out as large. Marty buys a small bunch of flowers at the market Saturday mornings during his weekly grocery shopping. He comes home, and I compost the dead or dried out flowers from the bouquet, clip the old stems, freshen them a bit, change out the water, and then add the new flowers to the vase. The bouquet is really lovely to look at, and it is one of the small niceties that we enjoyed during the pandemic. 

Marty returned to his office a while ago, and I began to delight in the peace and solitude of not having an “office mate.” He arrives home in the evening and we meet in the kitchen to cook dinner together. We really enjoy each other’s company and relax talking about the day while...

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Relationships

Uncategorized Mar 24, 2021
Relationships are beyond a Zoom room, Facebook post, Instagram status. So many people ask me about their "relationship status" with someone else and their “thoughts” regarding the other person involved. Did you know that our relationship with the “other” person has absolutely nothing to do with that other person? It is what we think about the other person, and it shows up in the slightest ways. Think about that. Shocker. How you think about the other person in a relationship is how you will behave. So, in any relationship, ask yourself, “who am I going to call first with the news?" My husband and I talk about this all the time. We call this "the call” game.

At the beginning of 2021 we wrote a "family manifesto" and behind it there was a sentence that went something like, “we want to be the people our kids know will always pick up the phone when they call." Pick up the phone when they call. This sounds like a strange request nowadays, but do...

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Bernie's Mittens Weren't My Inauguration "Wow!"

Uncategorized Feb 23, 2021

        I’m still failing over here. (Fail Big! - #2021Word) How about you? Learning to fail is pretty scary and I’m putting myself out there by saying, I really have a lot of “scaredy-cat” in me I’m trying to shake off. Even admitting this is a lot to me, not everyone is fearless. 

        When I watched the Presidential inauguration, I noticed someone in the audience that really impressed me and got over his failure. Although I am very impressed with the Bush family, the Obamas, and the Clintons, someone else stood out to me I know has failed big. That person was Alex Rodriguez (A-Rod). I’m absolutely not a sport, baseball, or hobby horsing buff, but I know his story. I thought, wow, how must A-Rod be feeling right now? What an outstanding “comeback kid” story. I’m not even sure if he’s a democrat or a republican. On this day, he was a proud American. When I see A-Rod, I see...

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Covid, Two Books, Netflix & an App

Uncategorized Feb 09, 2021

      Oh, Happy Valentine’s Day! You are such a sweetheart for showing me some love and opening my email. Thanks! How are you celebrating Valentines? Even though this holiday is a completely made-up commercial sales event, made up by the greeting card industry, it still is a beautiful holiday. Where else can you celebrate LOVE? Tell everyone how much you love them, especially in these times. Here are five things that I have been thinking about:

  1. Update on COVID-19 vaccination: I have not had mine yet. I’ll let you know when vaccinewatch.com (not a real website) is in full swing. Here is the real website: CDC Covid Vaccine.
  2. I’m currently reading the book - Every Body Matters: Strengthening Your Body to Strengthen Your Soul by Gary Thomas. It’s a fascinating read and has a completely different way of looking at “the body.” This is a Christian book, so if that isn’t your thing, then consider yourself advised.
  3. And speaking of...
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Fail Big Report

Uncategorized Feb 05, 2021

        It’s now mid-January and our world has been changing ever so fast. Or has it? There is a saying that if you want to go fast, you must go slow. (Slow down to go fast.) Yes, it is an ever-changing world we live in.

        I’ve been slowing down and giving a lot of thought and action around failing. Why fail? In my studies, there is a lot of data that our brains are designed to learn, even as we get older. We learn first by hearing, then deciding, and finally by doing. In order to “do,” we have to have a thought to try. Stay with me on this. Research shows that yes, our brains are designed to learn and grow very easily while we are young. It also is designed to keep learning as adults. If we would like to achieve anything and it seems impossible, well, it will be to us. (We decided it’s impossible.) We must decide to try. It’s like running a 5k. We would not expect someone who hasn’t learned...

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